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Sunday, October 19th, 2008
9:18 pm
Hi all! I just joined today and wanted to introduce myself. I'm Dorothy, living in beautiful Hawaii. I'm a photographer and fiber artist. My husband is in the AF, for how much longer we're not sure. It could be less than a year, it could be three more years. We'll know for sure when the next supplemental list comes out. :p AFPC can't pull their heads out of their asses with a map, so I'm fully expecting to have to call them again in Nov to get his scores.

I am definitely not a typical AF wife, even though I spent some time in the AF myself. I'm an artist, and I don't let my world revolve around the squadron and the AF. I have my own life outside of the military. It wasn't always that way, but a debacle at our last base with an absolute dearth of support left me very disillusioned. So I've distanced myself and now try to live as much like a civilian as I can. I need the practice, since we'll be transferring to the reserve or guard in a few years and settling here in Hawaii.

Like I said, I'm a photographer and a fiber artist. I have a degree in photo from University of Nebraska at Omaha. Right now I'm doing a lot of portraits, but I'm hoping to get back into the fine art, wet-darkroom and alternative process stuff I did while I was in school. Eventually I want to find gallery representation, both here and on the mainland. I'm a knitter and spinner. I don't design my own knitting patterns yet, but I'm hoping to. I love alternative music and bad 80's movies. If you want to see some of my work, my website is http://dorothydean.wordpress.com .

I think that's about it for now... I'm sure more will come later. Thanks to one of my Ravelry peeps for steering me here!
Wednesday, November 8th, 2006
6:10 pm
My husband joined the Army Reserves yesterday, so I figured now would be a good time to introduce myself. So, hi!

I'm Erin, and my spouse and I have been married for a little over two years (together for almost seven). He's talked about joining in some capacity for as long as I've known him, but I always sort of ...uhm...freaked out about it. The whole idea is taking some getting used to, but I support him one hundred percent.

I'm definitely not what you would call the typical "army wife" (just saying that makes me feel kind of nauseated, actually). I'm a graduate student working on a Ph.D., a raging liberal, I enjoy drinking large quantities of beer and eating equally large quantities of foods that are high in carbs, and I curse a lot. It's not my fault - my Irish and Italian genes made me this way.

I do admit that I love scrapbooking and cute kitties, though. Do I get kicked out for that? =)

Anyway. I'm glad I found this community - look forward to meeting you all.
Sunday, July 9th, 2006
9:44 pm
pooo~~~ Navy Ball

My fiance says it's unlikely that we'll ever attend one of these. ;_; He's robbing me of my chance to dress in pretty dresses!

Apparently, where he's stationed, people in general avoid the ball as much as possible because it's "working over time with no pay."

Oh, well, why can't people just dance. Dance guys, it's just a ball~

I finally got 12 days with my fiance. I was so happy~ <3 My family acted very cold towards him though, but they act very cold towards me too so I wasn't at all surprised.

During the vacation, he told me he wants to sign up for some program that'll make him stay for another 4 years. ... *silence* THEN he wants to get commissioned... *silence silence* So, I'm left to choose between not having a career or not seeing him for 10 years or more. He thought I would choose my career, I did too. I don't know, I might still choose to have my own life, but we'll see when we get married. I have a feeling I'm gonna go with him just because I don't want to live without him anymore.

I don't get why he loves the Navy so much. Well, he does, and I'm not gonna take something he loves away from him. I guess I have to change.
Sunday, June 25th, 2006
6:20 am
June 19: "Honey, they told us today our deployment isn't happening."

June 23: "Remember what I said earlier this week? Well, they were wrong, we are leaving in early October."

Man oh man, I love the army. [not] I am thinking they will probably wind up leaving on October 20th, which is my birthday. :(

Current Mood: annoyed
2:13 am
In light of running out of things to bitch about~
I don't have anything to bitch about either.

My fiance's gonna come home for 10 days though. Yay~~~ YAY~~ YAY~~~

We're planning on seeing his parents and my friends, maybe visit the beach. I'm concerned with the 10lbs that I seem to have gained since January, but it's too late to try and take it off now.

No need for congrats or i'm so happy for you, but what was something that made you especially happy over the past few days?
Monday, May 22nd, 2006
3:03 pm
Saturday, April 8th, 2006
2:08 am
my fiance really wants to get commissioned. He's filling out his officer package and sending it out before the end of the month.

I don't know how to stop him. I mean. He'll stop if I ask him to but I can't even convince myself it'll be good for him to not do it. I hate it. I don't want him to get comissioned, I don't want Navy to be his career. I just want him to finish his god damn contract and get out. Except, if I ask him to quit for me, I'd be extremely selfish.

I hate the military. I hate not seeing him.
Thursday, March 16th, 2006
6:30 pm
Working for the Navy
I currently work as a contractor for the Coast Guard. Well, I was looking online and there was a job announcement for the Navy doing exactly what I do, but it is a GS position. So I applied.
My question is... How does the Navy treat its civilians?
Saturday, February 4th, 2006
9:32 am
I am new here, and I wanted to say hi. I am 31 married for 4 years my husband is enlisted, but working to finish his degree and go onto OTS. Two and a half more years to go, if he can stay on track, but sometimes work takes its toll. I have a degree in biology, and looking to go and get into a Clinical lab program, so I can work in the hospital lab. We have no children yet, but would like to have some soon. I have to say that not having children and a degree pretty much makes some of the wives here a little on the defensive side, but most have been really nice. *whew* :) Dh is in the Air Force, and looks like he will be a lifer. I am excited to have found a nice group of women. I have been "lurking" on this site, and everyone seems quite nice. :)

Current Mood: hopeful
Thursday, January 26th, 2006
8:03 am

Hello There! I'm new to this community. I've been married for 12 years and my Hubbs is prior enlisted (submarines). He picked up warrant 2 years ago. I've never been a "typical" Navy wife. I worked full time and went to school when I could. Since we moved to CA (hubb's is attached to an air wing) I decided to stay home with our boys. (I miss working!) If I thought I didn't fit in with the wives before, I really don't fit in now.  Put it to you this way, nearly half of our wives group has had plastic surgery. Which is fine, but it's not my thing. Anyways, nice to meet you all, I've enjoyed reading your posts.


(Kathryn the Great)

Wednesday, January 25th, 2006
8:44 pm
quick and easy question: is there an easy way to file taxes for a spouse overseas? or do i have to go to a tax preparation place, because that seems expensive =/. thanks.
Monday, January 9th, 2006
8:04 am
Glad to see that I'm not the only one who feels somewhat out of place sometimes.

My name is Kristin, I'll be 29 next week and my husband is an E-5 in the Marine Corp. We've been married for nearly 4 years now and live on Camp Pendleton.

The thing is, regardless of how long we've lived on CP and I've been married to a Marine, I still feel so out of place sometimes. All of the wives in the squadron are huge into the whole spousal support thing and I just... don't like that kind of stuff. In addition to that, I think that I could quite possibly be the only person on my block that has a degree. Not that is makes me a different person but sometimes it is difficult to have a conversation with my neighbors when I want to talk about politics and they hardly watch the news at all. My husband says that it isn't a big deal but sometimes it feels that way because I don't feel connected with a lot of the women that we know.

Does anyone else have this problem? I don't want to join the enlisted wives club just to sit around and talk about crafts and upcoming events and all that kind of stuff. There's nothing wrong with it... it just isn't my idea of fun.
Friday, January 6th, 2006
12:02 am
First, happy new year.

2nd.. help...

I came back from seeing my boyfriend/fiance. (I think he's my boyfriend and he thinks I'm his fiancee then my friends say I'm wrong so this is how I'm going to compromise.)

The two of us idealy want to get married this year, with me moving closer to be with him in Japan.

The only thing is, I want a career. I don't even just want any career. I want to be a certified financial planner or a certified financial analyst. Both of which takes a lot of work, and requires me staying in one location for long periods of time. I may be able to fly around in the later years, but in the beginning I really will need to concentrate on my career to make it a success.

I don't want to give my career up. My career is as important to me as he is.

... but, I miss him. He misses me too. It kills me how little we see each other. He wanted me to move over and stay with him for 2 months in Feburary. I had to turn him down because I'm studying for some license I need to pick up. I can tell he was more than upset. He said, "Well, I guess I understand why you always cry when you miss me, because I'm feeling very down right now." I can't help it though. I'm only 22, I don't have that much money to pay for the plane tickets AND go to school, not to mention I have no job right now so I'm spending my savings.

I'm sorry I'm blabbing to you guys, but I feel like I have no one to talk to. My friends definitely don't understand. They mostly think I should dump my boyfriend and concentrate on my career. I can't talk to my parents about this. I don't want them to think he'll hinder my goal. I can't talk to any military wives. Even our marriage counselor suggested the chance of me having any meaningful career is minimal.

It hurts and it's confusing. I want both him and my career.

So, I guess, my question is, how do you make your marriage/relationship work while keeping a career? How do you deal with having a spouse moving so much, or having to change jobs often?

Well, I'm not giving him up. If need be I'll give up parts of my career. *sigh* I need help.
Thursday, December 8th, 2005
11:02 am
I have a question. Without being too specific, a brother of a friend is in some infantry unit. He was supposed to come home awhile ago after a year, but his unit received orders to extend for another six months. How often does that sort of thing happen? And does it happen often to support units or just to infantry?

Also, someone was saying at the last FRG meeting that if your spouse does actually come home for mid tour leave they can keep him for an extra three weeks without extending. Is that true?

Sorry for the 20 questions game, just two very disconcerting thoughts, and I don't know anything about the inner workings of the military, really.
Tuesday, December 6th, 2005
10:29 pm
Hi. I'm Lauri~. He's Jaime, E5, in either Kuwait or Iraq right now. Not really sure, phones there have been down for a week. He'll be back November 2006.

As a wife on an NCO, it was "highly recommended" I attend FRG functions at Ft. Lewis. Said functions tend to make me angry and bitter and feel even more alone than before. My civilian friends are mostly rabid peace activists, and really unsympathetic. My family is across the country. Since Livejournal has a community for everything, and I could use somewhere to rant, here I am.

Most of my deployment rants are here: __niamh_.

Nice to meet you all.
Tuesday, October 18th, 2005
10:34 am
Research for a book
I'm working on a book about military spouses. I'm in the early stages, which means right now I'm just collecting research and trying to decide what direction the book will take. I'm particularly interested in comparing the stereotypes of military wives in the media and popular culture and the experiences of actual military wives.

I have a survey that I'm hoping will guide the direction of the book. If you are interested in responging, please email me at mamawamba @ gmail.com. I will email you back from my regular email account, which includes my full name, with a copy of the survey attached.

I've been a military spouse for almost ten years and have been a member of this community for a while, so I'm not doing a drive-by. My goal in writing this book is to reassure military wives who do not fit the stereotype that the stereotype is largely an image and to pose a picture of the modern military wife that is closer to reality-- emphasizing that there is no one image of a military spouse.
Wednesday, September 7th, 2005
3:03 pm
Hey All.
Hi people! Glad I found you guys! I'm Jenn, hubby is a 2nd LT in the air force (chair force) and he has been in for 10 months now. I had to move from Atlanta, where I lived all my life, to Edwards, in the middle of nowhere. There is no civilization within 40 miles, and 80 miles a day round trip to a job really makes my gas tank hurt. I am one of 3 wives in my neighborhood that doesn't have kids, and the Only one who is a tattooed democrat. Yay me! I tried going to the OSC for a "coffee chat" once. The first question out of everyone's mouth wasn't "where are you from?" or anything like that. Oh no. It was, "Do you have any kids?" As soon as I said no, they clammed up and wandered away from me. Alas, I will NEVER go back. Plus, they were all my mother's age and I'm pretty sure wouldn't want to watch college football and drink beer on Saturdays with me.

So, there ya go. My journal is pretty public if you want to read up on me. Oh, and I post a lot about my weiner dogs, so be prepared to die from cute-dog overload.
Sunday, September 4th, 2005
8:20 am
Hello all. I just found this community it actually sounded well my sort of thing lol. I hate these introduction things but ok here goes (keep in mind I suck at these). I’m 26 living in Germany at the moment. I met my husband at Ft Campbell (yep were Army) while I was still in. Got out, moved to Texas then here and he has been deployed to Iraq/Afghanistan since January (he’s a crew chief and is actually gone to both in the last 8 months). He’s do in sometime this week end for his R&R but military style you never know when. I’m not the traditional wife. I don’t smile and say YAY my husband is serving his country, not that I don’t respect what he does, simply I’m not going to paint this huge gorgeous picture of our lives when I know for a fact its hard, it sucks sometimes (a lot), I rarely see him, its stressful, and due to my own refusal to “fit in” I solo most of it, if not all. To any of you who are about or just got here to Germany if you need advice, tips or anything lemme know been here almost 4 years and I live off base. I refuse to enter a new country just to live like I’m still in America. I don’t speak fluent German but enough I can understand most and reply if spoken slowly lol. I have 2 kidos a 3 year old son and 8 year old daughter. Yep I’m out of the whole intro idea so I shall close lol.
Thursday, September 1st, 2005
3:01 pm
Coast Guard Mutual Assistance Fund
Coast Guard Mutual Assistance Hurricane Katrina Account

In the wake of the devastation caused by Hurricane Katrina, there has been an outpouring of compassion for those Coast Guard members and families hard hit by this disaster in the impact area. Many have expressed a desire to help.

In response, Coast Guard Mutual Assistance (CGMA) has established an account to receive contributions designated for that specific purpose. Contributions marked “Katrina” will be earmarked and tracked to ensure they are used first and foremost to meet the needs of Coast Guard members and families associated with Hurricane Katrina in accordance with normal CGMA policies and procedures. In the event there are funds left over after meeting needs associated with Hurricane Katrina, they will be placed in CGMA’s general account to assist members of the Coast Guard family in times of financial need.

Tax deductible contributions should be made out to "Coast Guard Mutual Assistance or CGMA" by check, money order or with a credit card marked in the memo area or noted for "Katrina." Contribution forms are available on the CGMA Web site: www.cgmahq.org. Click on "Contributing to CGMA."

Checks, payable to "CGMA" may be sent to the following address:

Coast Guard Mutual Assistance

4200 Wilson Blvd., Suite 610

Arlington, VA 22203-1804

Secure credit card contributions may be made online through the CGMA Web site. Click on "Contributing to CGMA," then on "Credit Card."

If you have any further questions, please contact Mr. Tom Omri at Coast Guard Mutual Assistance (202) 493-6622.
Monday, August 29th, 2005
6:42 am
Yesterday, I was catching up on some tivoed shows. We were watching Over There. There was a scene where a husband joined the spouses group and I nearly cried hearing how he missed his wife. My husband goes out to sea in Oct, though he will only be gone for two months, it will be an adjustment. I am grateful that we were able to spend our first four years together and know now that it is another family's turn to spend time with each other.
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